Two Becomes One

Dating Tip, Express Yourself

Posted on June 22, 2010 by Two Becomes One

Some people always know exactly the right thing to say. If you are not one of those people there are a few sure fire ways to make sure that you are not only being yourself, but also being someone interesting and fun to be around.

Steer clear of the negative. You have probably been around them, the people who only ever seem to have negative things to say? You do not want to be one of those people and yet- are you? Think about the things you say. It is one thing to sometimes crack a joke about bad service but when you complain about everything, start to finish- you have a problem. Check the things you say before you say them and think about how you might try to rephrase them a little bit. Sometimes you may surprise yourself with how negative you may come across. The thing is, when you constantly complain about other things- particularly if you’re the type that complains about other people- the person you are with may be wondering what you are saying about them when they aren’t around. Be careful to choose your words in a little bit different light.

Go for the positive, pay the compliment if you feel like it. If you find that you want to say how pretty the color looks on her, or how great he smells- go ahead and say so. It isn’t like you’re staring at her blouse, or you are sniffing him up and down, you are simply letting them know that you appreciate the way they look, smell, or other complimentary things. It is always a great idea to talk about the good things that you see, or perhaps the more positive aspects of the date you are on but particularly, complimenting your date. If you are warm and approachable with the way that you relate to your date, you will find that they approach you- makes sense and sounds a little obvious, but some people don’t understand this one simple thing can be a dealbreaker.

Making an impression is easy- but which impression you make is where you find yourself having to choose your words. Even if you have prepared for this date and done everything else, all of your preparations will fall flat if you are overly negative and critical of the things around you. If the service is bad- crack a joke but don’t lose your temper and certainly do not be nasty or rude to the waiter. There is absolutely no need to bully a food service person- it is not impressive, nor does it show that you will defend your date- it shows you are mean and rude. There is no need to constantly complain about everything the entire night- even if you think you are making jokes, an occasional joke is funny, but if you find yourself in a steady stream of mean spirited jokes- it’s time for new materiel.

On the whole, you will find if you focus on the positive aspects of your date and the date itself, things will be much more enjoyable, and also your date will find you more enjoyable.

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