Posted on January 17, 2012 by Two Becomes One
“I know this isn’t going too well for the both of us, but we’ve just been together for so long we can’t seem to just end it like that.” I was hopelessly staring at my friend as her words failed to make any sense to me.
Whether a man or a woman, ending a seriously bad relationship is essential to every happy, healthy and a content life and far better than crying all nights wetting pillows, waking up like a zombies every morning, going through your days like nothing mattered and etcetera. Small matters might easily be taken care of but there are some people who are not meant to be together and there’s nothing wrong with that! They’ll probably fit in perfectly with someone else. When things are only getting worse off and getting you nowhere, its best to mutually decide and end your days together on good terms. And in no time you’ll find it extremely easy to deal with. It might sound difficult, but it’s possible.
Sometimes you have to be fair with your own self and think using brains rather than love clutched hearts. Ask yourself whether he or she is treating you like you deserve to be treated and whether the excuses made by your partner for acting different than this are reasonable or not. This way you’ll start seeing the bad things that really are bad and will give you the strength needed to make your step.
Most importantly, start to learn not to be too dependent on your partner. Start giving time to yourself instead of him or her and see the others things in life. Whenever you start feeling soft hearted, remember all the bad things that happened in your relationship and thus so remain adamant on what you’re doing.
Stop believing in the old, brainless conventions that love comes your way only once. You have to start believing that there is someone out there for you and you certainly have your chances of being with the one who’s absolutely right for you.
Look at the happy couples around and make yourself realize what you’ve been missing till now. This inclines you towards ending what was bad for you, hoping to find your own right way. You don’t have to blame yourself for the end of your relationship and neither will you be a betrayer if you do it.
So all those out there who think they’ve been unfair with their previous lovers, get your guilt ridden self out of this culpability cocoon and be happy to have ended what was to be ended for good!