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First Date Flubs

Posted on October 15, 2009 by Two Becomes One

Common First Date Flubs

The horror stories are out there if you want to look for them, sometimes even if you don’t. Have you ever been sitting there, talking to someone when they go into a long story about a first date gone wrong? Did it make you wonder what that person was thinking, or did it make you think about all the times you’ve had first dates and wonder if you weren’t, in fact, one of those first date flubs?

Too Nervous

Often times, being too nervous can cause a plethora of issues. Sure, it is perfectly normal to be a bit nervous, but if you’re so nervous you are sweating through your shirt, you may have a bit of a problem. Working on being able to calm yourself at least somewhat before that first date may be a good way to go about things, or perhaps even opting for a stronger antiperspirant. Also, be careful of talking either too much or not enough on a date- either one can make for one serious first date disaster, and that’s not something you want to have happen. Make sure that you are just going along with the flow of conversation, keep things fluid and light and it should go fairly well.

Too Much, Too Soon

You may have some really great goals for the future and some big dreams you are thinking about, but the first date is definitely not the time to talk about them. Sure, everyone wants that long term, stable future- but initiating that conversation on the first date is a sure fire way to throw up a red flag that is often hard for people to ignore. Also, steer clear of talks about former relationships, how they ended and what happened there. Just stick to basic getting to know you topics or perhaps current events and maintain a respectful sort of aloof. This usually is the very best way to keep things going in a more positive direction.

On the whole, really the best way to avoid the first date flubs is to try to relax and have a good time- be yourself, but a little more polite. Make sure that you aren’t getting yourself so worked up prior to the first date that you really jangle your nerves. Being able to avoid a first date flub might just be as simple as taking a few breaths and mentally getting yourself slowed down, it may mean just making sure that you are cooler under pressure than you thought you’d be. Either way, calm, relaxed and you will find that a first date can lead to a second.

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