Two Becomes One

Five Things We Wished You Knew

Posted on October 8, 2009 by Two Becomes One

All jokes aside about how women are easy to misunderstand, silly lexicons and translation forwards- there are a few things that women really do wish you guys knew and understood. This isn’t going to be a translate “I’m fine” into “I’m not” sort of thing, but hopefully, fosters some understanding between the genders.

1. How we dress is not indicative of what we want.

This is often a dangerous assumption to make, and can lead to some seriously negative consequences. Just because someone is wearing something sexy, does not mean she is out looking for a hook up. She may be, but drop the assumption. There are a variety of reasons a woman might dress or act a certain way, and that doesn’t mean you are entitled to act like you know the reason. 

2. We like to go out, have a beer and play pool, too.

We like having fun, just like you guys do. Just because we are at the bar, does not automatically mean we’re seeking Mr. Right. We might be there with friends, we may be there for the big game or to have a fun time, just like you. Relax and have fun with us, and treat us just like anyone else.

3. The Bad Mood Is Not Always You- Til You Make it You

Sometimes, we’re just in a bad mood. The day may not be going well, or things just may be tense. It happens to everyone, and jokes about PMS are never okay. Assuming that because we are in a bad mood because of you, is also not okay. Questions like, “What is your problem” are going to make it about you, whereas questions like, “Are you feeling okay” may or may not be, depending on your tone. If you are genuinely concerned, express it, otherwise? Keep your sarcasm to yourself.

4. Any Reply Is Better Than None

If we text, email or call you- even if you reply by simply acknowledging that you got the message, it is better than just to leave it. It does not matter if it was the latest joke forward or a very deep expression- let us know you got it. If you cannot reply as fully as you’d like, sometimes simply saying that so we know you’re not running off is best. Dead silence leads to all sorts of mindsets we’d rather not have to deal with.

5. Not the Momma

Please do not assume we are going to care for you, pick up after you, and make sure you are doing okay. If we do those things, it is because we care about you, and it should be not only acknowledged but appreciated. Rather than complain or say we didn’t have to- a simple thank you will suffice. It is never, ever okay to just assume we’re going to do something for you, and that you don’t have to be grateful.

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