Intro To Netiquette for Guys

Posted on October 8, 2009 by Two Becomes One

 

The internet offers so many options for dating, now, and it’s easy to browse profiles and make a choice on who to contact- but what’s the best way to do that? After you’ve done that, there are several do’s and don’ts that, to some, may sound silly, but bear repeating for others. Your search for love or fun on the internet need not be a confusing one, and here’s how.
Your First Message
So, you’ve found a girl that strikes your fancy- and you’d like to get to know her better. What’s the best hello? 
Don’ts-
Don’t send one sentence, or one word hellos. This is pointless and your messages will most likely be ignored- unless that one sentence is just really witty. 
Don’t overshare. This is simply your introduction. You don’t need to talk about your painful divorce, your family woes, or anything like that. A quick hello, my name is so and so will suffice on that end of things.
Do’s-
Do be friendly and engaging. A great thing to do is to make a comment about something she’s said in her profile. Showing you actually READ the profile she took the time to type out is always a good thing- so yes, read the whole profile. If her photo is what caught your eye, that’s fine, but she wants to know you cared enough to have a look deeper.
Do ask a couple of questions. Be sure that they are first intro level questions, and we’ll get to what’s okay in the next part of this how to.
If You Wouldn’t Do It In Public, Don’t Do It Here
Yes, this means sending that up close and personal shot? Not a good idea. If you would do that in public- we’re pretty sure you may want to seek some help for that issue. 
Don’t spill your life story, let that sort of trickle out- initially that sort of information just all layed out there- while well intended for the sake of honesty, can be pretty intimidating.
Don’t ask a bunch of personal questions, and certainly do not ask for more personal photos until it’s clear she’s open to doing that. Being That Creepy Internet Guy is what you are avoiding, so, at this point- light, friendly, fun and curious.
Keeping your curiosity to normal getting to know you is best, ask about pets, kids, work, or, as mentioned before, things typed in the profile.
At this point in the game, you’re getting to know her, and letting her get an impression of you. If you’re looking to NOT have your messages ignored, these tips can help you get your foot in the door. Keeping it light, real and focusing on more than the photos is always a good first impression and even on the internet, that’s the most important.

The internet offers so many options for dating, now, and it’s easy to browse profiles and make a choice on who to contact- but what’s the best way to do that? After you’ve done that, there are several do’s and don’ts that, to some, may sound silly, but bear repeating for others. Your search for love or fun on the internet need not be a confusing one, and here’s how.

Your First Message

So, you’ve found a girl that strikes your fancy- and you’d like to get to know her better. What’s the best hello? 

Don’ts-

Don’t send one sentence, or one word hellos. This is pointless and your messages will most likely be ignored- unless that one sentence is just really witty. 

Don’t overshare. This is simply your introduction. You don’t need to talk about your painful divorce, your family woes, or anything like that. A quick hello, my name is so and so will suffice on that end of things.

Do’s-

Do be friendly and engaging. A great thing to do is to make a comment about something she’s said in her profile. Showing you actually READ the profile she took the time to type out is always a good thing- so yes, read the whole profile. If her photo is what caught your eye, that’s fine, but she wants to know you cared enough to have a look deeper.

Do ask a couple of questions. Be sure that they are first intro level questions, and we’ll get to what’s okay in the next part of this how to.

If You Wouldn’t Do It In Public, Don’t Do It Here

Yes, this means sending that up close and personal shot? Not a good idea. If you would do that in public- we’re pretty sure you may want to seek some help for that issue. 

Don’t spill your life story, let that sort of trickle out- initially that sort of information just all layed out there- while well intended for the sake of honesty, can be pretty intimidating.

Don’t ask a bunch of personal questions, and certainly do not ask for more personal photos until it’s clear she’s open to doing that. Being That Creepy Internet Guy is what you are avoiding, so, at this point- light, friendly, fun and curious.

Keeping your curiosity to normal getting to know you is best, ask about pets, kids, work, or, as mentioned before, things typed in the profile.

At this point in the game, you’re getting to know her, and letting her get an impression of you. If you’re looking to NOT have your messages ignored, these tips can help you get your foot in the door. Keeping it light, real and focusing on more than the photos is always a good first impression and even on the internet, that’s the most important.

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