Two Becomes One

Making the Pitch

Posted on February 27, 2011 by Two Becomes One

Some people seem to have no trouble at all getting dates. They are able to walk up to someone who is all but a complete stranger, flash a smile and ask for a phone number or a date. They seem to be able to charm and seduce without much more than a glance. Some people… but not most.
For the vast majority of us, dates don’t just fall into our laps unbidden (no pun intended, mostly). No, we have to work at it. Most of us feel fortunate if we can just get the person we are interested in to acknowledge our existence, much less fall head-over-heels for a wink and a line. Most of us will have to endure a sea of no’s while searching for that one yes that will change our life forever (or at least a temporary yes).
Asking someone out is a gamble. Sometimes you win and get a ego-boosting yes, sometimes you lose and walk away head down, tail between your legs. Though there is no one foolproof way to win the game, you can help to even the odds.
How is it possible that you can improve your chances of landing a date with the girl of your dreams? After all, you aren’t one of the cool, slick guys that always gets the girls. That may be case, but understand that it isn’t strictly looks that make the man. Yes, a woman wants a handsome man, but a pretty face is not enough. They want more.
A guy with a pretty face, bulging biceps and nothing else won’t get too far. Conversely, a guy with an average face and an average body can draw all the attention and affection he can handle if he can make up for looks in other areas. This is where you can stack the odds in your favor, without plastic surgery, tanning beds and spending 8 hours a day in the gym. These are characteristics you can develop easily, on your own, that make a huge difference
1. Confidence – there is probably no characteristic that is more important. Confidence is what helps you overcome the fear of asking someone out on a date. Confidence is palpable. When someone is confident it radiates in everything they do. Confidence says, “I am comfortable in myself and my abilities. I know that, no matter what, I can handle it.” When you display confidence you portray yourself as someone likely to be a good protector and provider
2 Listening skill – If you can learn to really listen – listening means being completely engaged in a conversation, not because you care about the topic, but because you care about the speaker – you’ll have a tremendous leg up on the competition.
3. Wit – Everyone loves to laugh. Wit also demonstrates a sharp intellect. Stay away from acerbic and dark humor, though. They are both hard to pull off. Acerbic wit can make you look like a jerk and dark humor can be just downright creepy – not good images.
4. Chivalry – No it’s not really dead, it’s just evolved. Ladies like to be treated with respect and consideration. What they don’t like is being treated like property.
5. Money – If all else fails, get a really good job. Most girls will say that they don’t really care about money. Most girls are lying. If you can’t be lovable, be loaded.
Most of all, above anything else, just strive to be a great guy. Work on being the best you that you can be and learn to love yourself. That is the key to confidence and the key to becoming a desirable date.

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