Two Becomes One

Modern Dating

Posted on August 17, 2009 by Two Becomes One

The purpose of dating is simple:  two people getting to know each other better so that they can decide whether or not they’re interested in spending any more time together on a potentially romantic level.  Obviously, if both individuals are having fun,they’re going to want to do it again.

So, if the act of dating is so simple and the purpose so straightforward, why do millions of people have trouble dating and even more trouble finding that special someone?

Of course, there are various factors that play a role in making dating difficult such as busy lifestyles, safety concerns, and the stress associated with meeting and getting to know someone.  However, one of the biggest issues is society’s view towards and treatment of dating in general.  The changes that society, entertainment, and technology have imparted on the dating scene can be encompassed in a single concept – the need for speed!  When it comes to love, people have always been impatient.  But today, people are under even more pressure to treat dating as a speed sport when, in fact, they should be taking baby steps and examininng the minute details of the situation.

This need for speed is ironically the result of two opposing tendencies.  On one hand, you have a great deal of people getting married earlier due to impulsive decisions based on sexual energy and then, those same people are getting divorced just as quickly.  On the other hand, you have those that are waiting to get married until later and then rushing into it because of a concern that if they wait any longer, they won’t be able to have children of their own.  Add the television’s treatment of dating with unrealistic portrayals of courtship and sexuality on so-called reality TV shows and the internet revolution to the mix and you can see why people are dating at the speed of light.

Under these circumstances, dating has taken on a level of urgency and anxiety with individuals looking for instant gratification in inappropriate ways.

One popular outlet for this “speedy” dating tendency is online dating where lots of people are meeting up online, divulging inaccurate information about themselves, and attempting to meet up with individuals who they don’t know at all.  Online dating is impersonal, time-consuming, unsafe, and more fantasy than reality.  Speed is great if you’re a sports car but if you are a single adult looking for a meaningful relationship, it takes time.

At Two Becomes One, we have found that it typically takes about eighteen months to discover that you are actually compatible with a person. While we have already pre-qualified each member that we match you with, it still takes time to get to know someone.  And, it usually takes a couple of different people to find that individual that you really click with.  The reason we are so successful in assisting our members in finding that special someone is because we take the time to listen to your wants and needs and we do the majority of the work for you.  All you have to do is relax and enjoy spending time getting to know someone in a carefree, pleasant environment.

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