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Negativity and Dating

Posted on October 15, 2009 by Two Becomes One

Did you ever have that friend that just seems to be a seriously sad sack? Whenever you’re talking about dating, they’re the one who always has complaints. Nothing ever works out, they can’t ever meet anyone and well they are just destined to be alone forever and ever. Or, worse, do you feel like maybe you are that person? There are some things that we do in dating life that really manifests itself in a negative way, creating an attitude of losing, rather than winning. Believe it or not, these constant affirmations do change the way you experience things.

All The Good Ones

You’ve heard it before, “All the good ones are taken or gay”- now, first off, that’s really silly because if all the good ones were gay, then you’d rarely see a gay person who was single and, well, that’s not true, either. As to them all being taken, well, that’s hardly realistic, either. If all the good ones are taken, then what are you? Chopped liver? We didn’t think so. Other statements along these lines are things like, “There are no good places to meet anyone”, “I’ll never meet anyone who lives up to my expectations”, and well, you’ve probably heard or even said a few of these at some point.

Regardless of what you have experienced, these things are self defeating phrases. That negativity manifests itself in your life in some pretty profound ways, actually. If you cultivate an attitude of negativity in the things you think and say- you will give off that sort of vibration of not really being very open. As well, often when we do get ourselves into the mindset that nothing can go right, we also end up attracting those who may believe the things we say of ourselves.

Making Yourself the Victim

Another thing many people say is that they seem to attract all the wrong types. When you find yourself in this position, you may have to realize there is in fact a common thread. No, you don’t just have rotten luck- you’re giving off an air of vulnerability and negativity that can and will attract the sort of person who takes advantage of that. It is not your fault the way that the treat you, no, but you can prevent it from being an issue quite so often. People who are more confident in themselves as people do often attract less of the sort that will take advantage of those who come across as being more vulnerable and more down on themselves- remember, what you think of yourself is often, what others will see you as.

Remember, as with anything else, a positive attitude will take you a very long way when it comes to meeting new people and dating. So get out there, take a hold of your own fate and make your own reality, enjoy dating more by just being more positive about the potential.

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