Two Becomes One

No Pressure First Dates Made Easy

Posted on October 8, 2009 by Two Becomes One

Planning out a first date is something that we have all found ourselves strapped with at some point in time. The trick here, is making sure that the date is both fun and exciting, but also, setting the stage for you to be able to get to know one another initially. It also doesn’t hurt to make sure that the no pressure aspect is there, for you both, so if the date’s a dud, you have an easy way out. Some of the most lasting relationships began with a first date that balanced all of these things, and we’ve asked those couples what really made the date a success.

Most couples agreed that the first date where they were able to openly communicate without having to shout over loud music or a croud was best. Simply taking a stroll around the park, museum, or a trip to the zoo creates a fun, no pressure environment where commentary and discussions can be opened with every turn. Being able to talk about the things you see and do can often lead to deeper conversations that really help you to get to know him, and vice versa. Most of these long term couples agreed that they didn’t really do the no talking date until later in the game once the communication had already been established. If they did, the movie date was almost inevitably followed directly after with a cup of coffee or dinner. This gave them the opportunity to discuss the movie, get to know eachother and generally by the time the movie was over, the nervousness had died down. So, you can see how that would be a great first date, as it first takes the pressure off, and then, opens the door to the “getting to know you” phase of things, all in one night. 

The other element that these couples mentioned was fun. The first date is always a very low pressure and casual event. Not one of these couples spoke of throwing loads of money into an expensive first date and thus setting themselves up to have to outdo it at a later time. Instead, casual and fun reigned supreme in making first dates their most memorable- and leading to a second date, and the eventual long term relationships they are now in. There was no need to spend and arm and a leg on the first date, but there was an overall sense of it being the spark that lit something bigger, and they went from there.

Making sure the first date is a good one is all about introducing both of you to each other as romantic interests, it doesn’t have to be awkward or weird, and it certainly doesn’t need to be expensive. Any date where you can laugh, talk and connect just sparks the chemistry there and sets the ball rolling towards building the sort of connection that you hope you can have.

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