Two Becomes One

On line Lover or On line Loser?

Posted on October 8, 2009 by Two Becomes One

Whether you are seeking out your tenth level paladin or a sharp dressed attorney for a mate, the on line world is a virtual smˆrgÂsbord of dating opportunities. However, with those opportunities also come an entirely new level of potential pitfalls and ways to fall flat on your face. There are a few warning signs that your on line sweetie shouldn’t become someone you know “IRL”.

Well, I Live With My Mom

During recent tumultuous economic times, living with family is no longer the red flag that it once was. However, if the backstory includes words like “free spirit” and “just needed to find myself”- you might want to keep on browsing. Not that you’re shallow, no, no, however, if you are looking for a serious relationship, you want to find someone who has already found themselves. However, bearing in mind that not everyone lives with extended family now does so because they just never left, this is one you have some wiggle room on explanations. Even if you are looking for your gamer geek mate- if the reason he lives with Mom is so he CAN be that high level character, you might consider what that says, there. 

Why Does That Photo Look Familiar?

“Pics plse” is a common mantra in online chat rooms, and with the comprehensive nature of most dating websites now, it doesn’t have to be a question you ever have to ask. It’s always best to seek out profiles with photos already, but there’s an old joke about getting sent photos that, well, aren’t entirely honest. How do you spot a ’shopped photo? Blow it up a little. Odd areas of pixilation will tell you that there’s a reason his six pack turned into a keg in the time it took to arrange the first date. Other variations on this from the less artistic? If he looks like a model, and has only one photo? It’s probably not him, so don’t get too excited there. 

It’s Complicated

If these words cross your screen in regards to a partner or ex partner on behalf of the online potential- run. Do not ask why it is complicated, just run. You’ll thank yourself for this, later. Inevitably, all “It’s complicated” is code for is, is “I’d like something on the side and I have about ten thousand excuses why. Break out the Kleenex, you’re about to hear why I’m the victim, even though I’m cheating.” See that red x at the top right of your screen? You get a message with “It’s complicated” just click it. Unless, of course, you’re in the mood for the tear jerker tale of a century- or worse, the man who doesn’t put any effort into his excuse. Every so often you’ll get one who’s up front about it, and those aren’t any more pleasant than the mini novels about unsatisfying marriages where she just “doesn’t understand.”

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