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Signs He’s Ready To Get Real

Posted on September 21, 2009 by Two Becomes One

Some people wish that there was a lexicon or a how to guide to understanding men. The common joke and stereotype is that they are easy to understand, simple creatures but this couldn’t be further from the truth- as most have found out. The most commonly confused area is when is a man getting ready to be serious with you. Some signs that have been held up aren’t, others are completely missed over, and that can be a little tricky if you don’t know what you’re doing. Let’s have a look at some of the commonly misread signs.

Signs That Aren’t:

How often have you heard a friend say that she just knows he’s ready, but why won’t he take the next step? Or how often have you heard that list of reasons she feels he is? The biggest one that many see as a sign that isn’t, is physical intimacy. Yes, physical intimacy can be an intensely bonding experience but it doesn’t always mean that someone’s ready to bust out an engagement ring and it should not be seen as such. Other misread signs include things like him opening up about his exes, his family or his job. This may be a sign that he’s getting closer, but it is not the end all, be all of what you should be looking for.

Sometimes, It Just Comes Out:

If he’s already talking about his feelings for you, and doing so in a manner that indicates he’s really developing them in a big way- this is a big sign but one that’s often used alone to indicate readiness when it is not. Often, the signs have to be all taken together, all smaller pieces of a much larger puzzle. But sometimes, it just comes out and you don’t have to do anything. Be happy when it happens and open to talking about what he’s looking to do- but don’t let it end with him expressing himself and you not probing further. If he’s talking, you also talk and listen and engage in an active communication.

The Family:

Possibly the biggest sign that a man is actually wanting to get serious is an introduction to the family- but this, too can be tricky. If he introduces you to a sister, or a brother- this isn’t really a big sign. Sibling introductions are fairly common, especially when they are close in age. The kicker is the parents. If he’s introducing you to his parents, or even better, his grandparents or his family on the whole, such as inviting you to a family function, he may in fact be signaling a greater readiness towards more.

There are numerous things to be looking for in watching for someone who is getting ready to move into another phase of relationship with you. However, the single biggest mistake is taking them all individually. When you put together all the pieces and signs- you should have a much bigger picture as to what he is thinking and where he wants to go.

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