Two Becomes One

So you are thinking about cheating . . .

Posted on October 15, 2009 by Two Becomes One

The spark is gone, the repetition has begun to wear at you. Perhaps there are some things about the relationship that you just don’t like and you’re contemplating cheating. Or maybe, there’s someone who has come along who has really caught your attention and made you feel like you haven’t in ages. Any way you slice it, you’re either at the start of, or you are about to make a really horrible mistake- only, you don’t know if it would be such a big mistake in the first place and that’s really bothering you. Before you cheat, there are probably some things you should consider.

Do You Want To Work It Out?

If you want to continue to have a relationship with your partner, you need to take a step back and not do this. If you want to work things out with your partner, then you don’t want to cheat. You may be thinking you won’t get caught or it will hurt no one, but the chances are good that you will get caught and someone will get hurt. One of the things that we have seen countless times is not so much that the cheating partner made a mistake- but that the person that he or she cheated with decided they’d had enough of being on the side. This usually results in someone making a big confessional that you really do not want to deal with, but especially if you want to work things out with your partner. In short, if this relationship is worth saving to you, don’t try to bring someone else into it. Seek counseling and help and really work on it. Addressing the problems that have you at this point before they get worse will enable you to perhaps salvage something that you didn’t want to lose in the first place?

It Really Is Over

If your relationship is really beyond all repair, you lose nothing really in ending it before you do decide to see someone else. If for no other reason apart from being able to make a clean break and start over, but then there’s the added benefit- if you are trying to initiate a new relationship with someone, you don’t need that hanging over your head. If you seek something serious, the other person will always wonder if the cheating wasn’t a long term pattern and you begin the new relationship with a certain lack of trust. If you’re just looking to have fun- well, there is nothing fun about being caught cheating. It usually ends in a massive amount of drama and sure, that will be a way of ending things- but not the way that you want. Ending a relationship via getting caught cheating usually results in a lack of closure for the other person, and can cause some residual drama as your former partner imagines that it was the fault of the person you cheated with.

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