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Speed Dating

Posted on October 15, 2009 by Two Becomes One

What Is Speed Dating?

This is a rather new concept, but one that is really starting to catch on in the singles circuit. Speed dating usually is like a big party where many different people get together and you have to get to know someone usually in about ten minutes before moving on to the next potential. The advantages are that usually you can tell if someone’s really not going to work out, but you can usually see if there is a slight spark in that amount of time. The entire point is to see if you can click in that small amount of time and then at the end of the evening, you submit a list of potentials and the coordinators exchange means of contact. Contact information is generally not exchanged during the initial intervals because this can sometimes cause pressure on people to give out information when they aren’t really feeling a connection- so, this reduces the problem of not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings by rejecting them.

Advantage of Speed Dating Verses Bars

The advantage is pretty obvious, if you’re at a speed dating party or event, you’re there to meet people and hook up. If you’re at a bar or a club, you may not be. Or, conversely, the person that you are interested in may not be- however, with speed dating, this is not an issue as everyone there has either pre registered and paid up front or is aware of what the event really is. The time limit keeps people from demanding all of another’s time, but also prevents the long, drawn out evening of a first date with someone that bores you to tears. That is a clear advantage to anyone who has ever been on a blind date and decided early on that they’d rather watch paint peel.

Another advantage to speed dating is that there is no pressure. Everyone who is there, is there to meet someone and event coordinators typically balance the genders involved. However, as it is just short intervals, most people are more relaxed.

Is Speed Dating For You?

There are now numerous studies that back the idea behind speed dating, actually- interestingly enough it seems that yes, first impressions really are important as shown in a 2006 study in Scotland. Forty five percent of all women in that study had already made their choice within thirty seconds. Other studies showed that it was scent that attracted the most female interests at speed dating events. Also, yes, you have probably seen this in many television shows as the trend becomes more and more prominent with often humorous results on the small screen.
Deciding if speed dating is right for you really isn’t all that difficult- trying it once is usually enough to tell you if this is something you can or cannot do and it is usually done in such a casual and fun way that it is rarely a waste of time.

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