Two Becomes One

Taking A Chance

Posted on February 14, 2011 by Two Becomes One

Antony and Cleopatra, Guinevere and Lancelot, Bonnie and Clyde – history’s greatest romances all share one simple thing in common. They all started with someone expressing an interest in someone else. All it took was for someone to be brave enough to risk rejection in the hope of making that magical connection.
It kind of makes you sad when you think of all of the great romances that could have happened, but didn’t. Just think of all of the times in your own life – perhaps you locked eyes across an empty diner or crowded party, perhaps you were introduced by a mutual friend, maybe it was even someone you interacted with on a regular basis that you were too afraid to ask out – that you let the chance of finding true love, happiness and fulfillment because you were too timid to take your chance. Chances are that at least one instance has popped into your mind already just from reading this.
Yes, all of us have let a chance at love slip away at least once in our lives. There isn’t any use mulling over “what ifs”, though. You can’t go back and do it right. What you can do is resolve to do it right next time, to never let another chance pass you buy.
Making that commitment is a lot easier said than done, though. From the safety and comfort of our living rooms it is easy to say what we will do next time. When the time comes and the chips are down, many of us will choke. After all, you have a lot on the line. The pain of rejection is one of the most hurtful emotional wounds.
Still, as the saying goes, nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you ask that someone out to coffee and they say “no, thank you,” is that really any worse than if you had never asked at all. The ultimate outcome is the same – you don’t get to be with that person. However, if you ask then there is always the chance of getting a “yes.” If you never ask, then you are doomed to live in a world of “no.” As Mark Twain said, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed in the things you didn’t do than then things you did.”
In twenty years do you want to look back on a life of being scared and alone? Wouldn’t you rather be able to look back and put all of the hurtful “no” answers into perspective while snuggled next to your One Great “Yes”? Of course the later is much preferable to the former! It’s what we all want.
Fear is habitual. The more opportunities that you let slide because you are too afraid of rejection, the harder it becomes to overcome that fear. The only way to overcome that is to take the chance. Even if the object of your interested says “no” it will still give you more confidence than if you never ask at all. The first step is the most important step, so if there is someone you have been thinking about asking out on a date, go ahead and take the chance. You’ll be glad you did.

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