Two Becomes One

Who You Are

Posted on August 19, 2009 by Two Becomes One

For many people, dating can be just as scary as it is exciting.  This is because we focus on the end point instead of the process.  You probably think you know how to date but unless you are looking at dating as a process broken down into manageable steps, rather than an all-consuming final act, you are missing the point.

 First and foremost, the best way to have fun dating is to be relatively happy before you begin.  The crucial factor isn’t doing everything in your power to get someone else to like you but making sure that you kind of like yourself to begin with.  If you are comfortable with who you are, others will be comfortable around you.  

 The most important aspect of this comfortability is confidence.  If you are going to date, you need to go for it.  Fear can paralyze you and prevent you from attaining the best things in life.  If you have a basic faith in yourself, you have confidence.  Even when you’re not exactly sure, pretend you’re not afraid and pretty soon, you’re really not afraid.

 Begin by building confidence on the inside.  Inventory all of the things that you do well.  Every single person does something well and if you concentrate on that, then you can build a stronger foundation of confidence.  Then, move to confidence building on the outside.  Develop your own sense of style, liven up your wardrobe, wear something that you know you look good in on a first date.  Have faith in yourself and convey that to others through your outward appearance and mannerisms.  Shake hands firmly, stand up straight, smile, make eye contact, really listen to what others have to say and react.  Remember, people who don’t know you will accept the picture of yourself that you present until they know better.

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